Here is what I have learned.
- You do not have to explain to people why you’re acting the way you are. They aren’t going to understand, and that’s okay.
- You are so much more than your diagnosis. You are a flower, you are the wind in-between the spokes on a bike, you are a living, breathing miracle. You are not your diagnoses.
- There will be days when fighting is all you can do. When you feel like you are standing in the middle of a battleground, only it’s you on both sides and it’s all in your head.
- There will also be days when you can only surrender. Lay in bed, let it pass. Sleep, a lot, and cry if your heart is heavy.
- Your strengths will be tested. From the very beginning, the illness pokes at your wires and makes you want to pull your hair out. It will try to break you and tear you apart, but it cannot fully destroy you. Don’t even think about letting it win.
- It causes you to burn bridges, but they can be built again. It will tear up relationships with people whom you can’t trust, who don’t understand you the way you wish they would. But bridges can be built again, and they will, with the right people.
- Remember the word “Lightly”. This is a therapy word for me. Live lightly, sweetheart. Tread forth lightly, dance with life lightly, feel lightly.
- Laughing is the most amazing thing on Earth. That can be my only way of coping. Laugh, laugh, laugh and get joy out of the little things. Funny things are like gold. They make it bearable.
You are not alone.
Eden Smith, Sweet Spade